Perfectly Abnormal by Chris Morris

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From the cover:

Why is God silent in my illness?

Living with a chronic illness is tough enough on its own, but it can become an overwhelming burden when we believe widespread myths about chronic illness. Without a strategy to overcome these lies, we can descend into a listless existence, even as people of faith.

In Perfectly Abnormal, Chris Morris tears down the erroneous and misinformed beliefs surrounding chronic illness. From the unique standpoint of being both a parent of a special needs daughter and having a seizure disorder himself, Chris guides readers through difficult terrain as he shreds the eight most common myths the chronic illness community faces. Then he begins the conversation of developing a better theology of illness, with the intent of bringing his readers to a place of intentional excellence in spite of their conditions.

My review:

This book came into my life at the moment I needed it most: just as my mom, for whom I am primary caregiver, was preparing for major back surgery for another collapsed disc, and while she began her recovery (which ended up being the most traumatic part of the continuing ordeal). Being able to turn to Perfectly Abnormal and hear Chris’s words of encouragement and empathy helped me so much at this desperately stressful time of my life.

Chris Morris knows what he’s talking about–he’s both a caregiver and a person who lives with chronic illness. His writing shows his vast knowledge of the Special Needs/Chronic Illness community and his true empathy for those who deal with SN/CI every day. His heart and his passion for the SN/CI community shine through this book.

If you are a caregiver for or a family member/friend of anyone who lives with a chronic illness or has special needs, you need to read this book. It is filled with both spiritually enriching and practically sound advice. And this isn’t an academic treatise or a self-help book full of psychobabble and big words. This book is like a friend coming alongside you, putting his arm around your shoulder, and saying, “Let me share my experiences to help ease the burden of yours.”

It is wonderful, and I highly recommend it to you and anyone you know who could benefit from its blessings.

I received an advanced copy of this book from the author for review purposes. I was not required to give a positive review. All opinions are my very own! 🙂

Here are a few of my favorite quotes:

“The greatest paradigm shift we can help others make so they can better help and support us is that we are influenced by—but not defined by—our illnesses.”

“…we can’t always get our illnesses under control because they were never under our control in the first place.”

“God walks us through moments in our life to teach us how to minister to others. Your pain isn’t just about you; it’s about others, too, and how to bring them hope in the midst of their pain.”

And, probably my favorite: “Not being in control of our own bodies or being able to help our loved ones is emotionally debilitating. And yet the illness doesn’t own our attitudes; we do.”